My Loving MIL

Ahh- I love my mother-in-law! She has been so good to me, to us and she adores my daughter. Why then does she irritate the crap out of me sometimes? Please tell me why!!! There are days where I really can't handle being around her - and I feel awful because she has done nothing to deserve it. She takes care of my daughter 3 days a week, she is very kind and sweet to me, she and her husband gave us their car, she is constantly trying to help if we need it. But yet...something irks me.

I mean I know what it is sometimes. Like when she pats me on the back for what feels like an eternity but is probably only a minute or so - I really don't like to be touched. Or when she makes comments that are opinions, but does so in a way that make them sound like facts...I get it then, but why oh why can't I get past all of that and just appreciate her?

Sex and the 7 Week Old

Last night my husband tried to pick me up by cooking dinner and running out to get movies. Well, he ran out to get the wax paper I needed to make the chocolate covered gummy bears that we'll give out as a holiday gift - but he also picked up some movies as a surprise.

It was really sweet - we were watching "The OH in OHio" with Parker Posey, Paul Rudd and Danny Devito...and he started to get a bit amorous. Our daughter had been asleep for about an hour in her swing - which was great. I haven't really been in to the romance thing for the past few weeks, but I've given it the old college try...so I was pleasantly surprised to be open to the option last night.

With baby girl asleep and a good comedy in the DVD player - we started making our way towards each other. BUT - alas as all Mom's know - it just isn't that easy. While things started heating up between us - our daughter started waking up... My husband would probably have continued going - but I just couldn't get past hearing her fussing in her swing - so I fed her, changed her and hopped back on the couch to continue where we left off (pretty impressed with myself if you ask me)...alas - darling husband was no longer in the mood.

It surprised me - normally I would have been like alright and gone on to finish the movie - but it kind of upset me. I was thinking - here I am 7 weeks post baby and happily trying to get it on with my husband - and he tells me he doesn't want any??? WTF???

Not sure what's going to happen next time - but I will be sure to remind him of this the next time he's in the mood and Mommy is too tired to give it the old college try!

Becoming a Joiner

Before I was a mother I rarely joined any group that wasn't work related. In the 7 weeks since I have become a mother I find myself looking for groups to join. The groups I am interested in are typically groups of women talking about their kids. It never occurred to me prior to gaining the title of Mom that I would want to talk to other women about their kids - but I have found it to be helpful.

I have joined one group in particular - Main Line Mom's - on Yahoo - that I find fascinating. There are about 50 or so women - all from the Main Line - who get on line and post comments, questions and concerns relating to their children, motherhood, etc. I really enjoy seeing that other people are having the same issues that I am having - and I also like the fact that I now know 50 other women w/ children that I can call on when I have an issue or concern.

However, interestingly enough - I have found that this group of women - like most groups that I have associated with - has its issues with being nice to each other. In response to a post that one woman put up regarding breastfeeding - granted she is breastfeeding her 2 year old, but what business is it of mine if that's what she wants to do - one woman wrote - put your tit back in your bra and try sleeping with your husband - or something to that effect. I couldn't believe that someone would post something like that to another person who was honestly looking for help, guidance, etc. I found it interesting that women - even in the virtual world would behave like that towards each other.

Alas - after talking about this with many of my female friends, I find that most of them are not surprised that this occurs both in the cyber and real worlds.

If you ask me - that's just sad.

How I became a Mom

So I woke up the other day and realized that I had become a Mom - almost overnight. Well, I guess I had about 9 months of warning - but really the motherhood part came up overnight...or over 2 nights, but whatever - the point is that almost w/o warning I entered a secret society that only half of the population can enter and even within that half there are many that don't.

I don't think that I am special because I am a Mom - rather I think I am special because I was blessed with my daughter. I guess every Mom feels that way - or ought to - but I know I sure do.

So I am starting this blog to discuss Motherhood and all that it entails. I will discuss everything from my daughters daily schedule to helpful things I pick up along the way.

Enjoy my journey - I'm sure it will be a rocky one, but I am looking forward to it!